what happens on tour stays on tour

English

Etymology

Originally referring to sporting or band tours.

Phrase

what happens on tour stays on tour

1. When a group of people, usually a group of all-male close friends, get together and travel, go on vacation, throw a party, etc., any controversial conduct engaged in during the event must be kept strictly confidential.
   • 2010, Dannii Minogue, Dannii: My Story‎^[1], Simon and Schuster, →ISBN:

     To be honest, I can't really commit to paper half the stuff that went on during the ‘Unleashed’ tour, as we promised to take it to our graves. ‘What happens on tour, stays on tour!’ as they say.

   • 2013, Jacquie L'Etang, Sports Public Relations, SAGE, →ISBN, page 5:

     Inevitably, men who spent time together travelling formed bonds and friendships, which overlapped and supported their professional relationships. One of the results was the ‘what happens on tour stays on tour’ mentality, which recognised that humans—whether or not they are sportsmen—are likely to do dumb things from time to time.

Synonyms

• what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas
• what happens on the road stays on the road

See also

• Appendix:Snowclones/what happens in X, stays in X

Further reading

• Charles Clay Doyle, Wolfgang Mieder, Fred R. Shapiro, editors (2012), “What happens (goes on) in Las Vegas (etc.) stays in Las Vegas (etc.).”, in The Dictionary of Modern Proverbs, New Haven: Yale University Press, →ISBN, page 137
• what happens on tour, stays on tour on Wikipedia.Wikipedia